Real Sh*t

I was listening to one of Gary Vee’s podcasts on caring what other people think, and what he said really struck me.

“So many people make big life decisions based on other people’s opinions. You care so much about what your mom, dad, brother, or friends think that you’re allowing them to dictate your actions in life.

At the core of it, the barriers so many people have aren’t really about “money” or “time.” They’re about opinions. 

It’s the biggest reason so many people are unhappy right now. Because they value someone else’s opinion more than their own. 

Once you get past that, life can get real good.”

Can you relate?

I can too. I am totally a people pleaser. I never want people to think ill of me, and if I am ever in an awkward situation, I have thought about it for days on end, replaying it in my mind. Before, I also didn’t always wear what I thought I ‘shouldn’t’ be wearing out of fear of being judged. Side note: I still struggle with this!

But let me tell you, it’s a huge WASTE OF TIME.

I have built my confidence over lots and lots of time, and I am always a work in progress, however over the last several months in particular, I have been working on giving no fucks.

Most people are really not paying attention to your every move, those awkward things you might have said or done etc. Most people are actually worried about how they are coming across, they don’t care what you’re wearing, what color your hair is, or something you said that you felt was weird or awkward.

This brings me to the fact that IF people do judge you, it is about their own perception.

Back to Gary See, because he just hits the nail on the head with this.

“So they tell Ricky to go to Princeton because they want to brag about it — not because it’s the best move for their kid. 

And it goes broader than just parents.

The truth is, no one has 100% context on your life outside of you. The reason I don’t value my wife’s or my mom’s opinion more than my own is because they don’t know 100% of everything.”

So, go out and be bold. Own your unique self, make decisions for YOU. Maybe you have been wanting to color your hair pink – do it. Maybe you want to wear a fun fringe mini skirt to that party you have coming up – do it. Maybe you want a new career, but everyone is nay-saying it. Do it!

I have asked a few older people about their life, my Grandma in particular, and she has a regret: she wanted to go to medical school, but that wasn’t a career for women at the time, so she did not go. It’s a regret. And a lot of older people will tell you that they have regrets.

Don’t let your life be dictated by others’ opinions.

See what happens when you live your life the way that you want to and give no fucks. Maybe people will respond to your choices, but those responses should not have any power over you.

So go out and give no fucks, and see your world open up!

xo, Lynn

Who doesn’t want white teeth?! Our teeth can yellow due to genetics, what we eat and drink – hello coffee lovers! I love me some coffee, so making sure that I keep my smile white and bright is very important to me. Let’s get into 3 ways to make your smile whiter AND maintain it:

1. SMILE BRILLIANT SYSTEM

What’s better than a dentist quality whitening? NOT going to the dentist to whiten your teeth! Smile Brilliant offers dentist quality whitening without having to sit in the chair. You know, that anxiety inducing char. Okay, even if it is for whitening, I still don’t like it!

Anyway, Smile Brilliant offers two different systems: one for people with sensitive teeth and one non-sensitive. You guys…their system is really the best. And it’s easy & made just for you. What do I mean? You’ll take a mold of your teeth, send it to Smile Brilliant, and then they’ll send you custom trays to use. Want more info? “From dental lab to your door. Our teeth whitening process is recommended by more dentists than any other procedure in America. We proudly produce our custom-fitted whitening trays right here in the United States for 70% less than your dentist and 3x to 5x faster. We ship worldwide & our customers trust our team’s honesty and experience.” How is that for amazing?

I was afraid that my teeth and/or gums would hurt from the whitening gel, but I felt no discomfort. I used the trays everyday until I was out of syringes, and recommend doing this for the best and fastest results.

See the my results for yourself:

2. BE MANIPULATIVE!

A fake tan and a good lipstick will do the trick. Both will make your teeth look A LOT whiter.

Let’s get specific. Opt for a natural looking tan. My favorites are NKD SKN and Loving Tan. Neither brand sells orange toned tanners. The same goes for lipstick – go for cool toned colors to make your teeth look more white. Orange-y tones will bring out the yellow in your teeth. So, if you go for red, use a blue toned red.

3. USE A CLEAN TOOTHPASTE

By clean, I mean using a toothpaste without the bad shit such as: carrageenan, fluoride, and sweeteners. Yes, many toothpastes contain all of these ingredients! My new favorite is from Dr. Bronner’s. It’s pepperminty and fresh, and makes your smile sparkle and your mouth feel clean.

Side note: Before I started using Dr. Bronner’s, I was using a charcoal toothpaste because I thought that it was beneficial for dental health and the color of your teeth. While charcoal toothpastes DO whiten your teeth, they are also damaging to your tooth enamel. We’re talking permanent damage.

“Prolonged use of charcoal to whiten teeth is likely to lead to dramatic enamel erosion and permanent damage to the tooth with incredibly superficial results.” – Smile Brilliant

I am so grateful to Smile Brilliant for educating me on this, as I would have continued on using charcoal toothpaste. Check out their page HERE for more info.

**GIVEAWAY**

Smile Brilliant is so kind to give away a whitening kit to one lucky winner!

Want to get a system now? Smile Brilliant is offering my readers 15% off any kit with code: allgussiedup15 at SmileBrilliant.com !

Good luck!

xo, Lynn

Creating your own future is such a powerful concept, and what a perfect time to do it!

I created this worksheet for you kind of for a selfish reason: I need it myself! After hearing Gary Vaynerchuck talk about happiness in one of his recent Ask Gary V Podcast episodes, I was struck with the inspiration to write down all of my goals with the WHY being HAPPINESS (see the second and third boxes on this worksheet). Here’s the gist of what Gary had to say: Everyone is happiest when they are doing what they want to be doing. It’s pretty damn simple.

It’s important to define success on your own terms in order to live a happy life. Do not go out to set goals based on someone else’s life, goals, or what you think you should be doing. Do what makes you happy.

Alright, now let’s talk about using the worksheet.

1. Start with your goal, and use multiple sheets for each goal. 

2. Ask yourself how accomplishing this goal will make you feel

I like to work in reverse when setting goals by asking how I will feel once something is accomplished. If I feel energized, excited, accomplished, and HAPPY, it’s worth working on. If not, no thanks.

Tony Robbins says: “your mental and emotional state colors your perception and experience of everything in life. If you feel afraid or insecure, it’s hard to make a big change, but if you feel like a million bucks, you’re ready to conquer the world.”

3. WHY?

After writing down how you will feel once you’ve accomplished your goal, ask yourself WHY this is important to you.

4. List actions

Lastly, develop your strategy…specifically the actions that you need to take to complete your goal. The best way to create a strategy? Look at who else might have succeeded with the same goal and outcome that you have written down. What did they do to accomplish it? Modeling actions after other successful people who have already accomplished this will give you some inspiration.

I hope this has been helpful for you! I am personally so excited to use this worksheet as my own goals and thoughts have only been an inner narrative until now.

xo, Lynn

Let’s talk coming off BIRTH CONTROL. Awkward? Maybe. But I’m going to talk about it.

This blog is all about honesty, and if you’ve been a reader for awhile, you may know that I’ve written about other taboo topics such as negative people, anxiety, and divorce to name a few.

Taking birth control is such a personal decision, and at the end of the day, you need to do what is best for you. I am here to share my story with it.

I started taking the pill in high school for horrible period cramps. You know the ones. I took it pretty much continuously for 15 years. Crazy, right? When I started taking the pill, I was in amazing shape as a swimmer on the high school team, but I did notice some weight gain after I started taking the pill. Nothing crazy, and TBH, as a teenager, I didn’t pay close attention to my body at all. So I continued to take it.

I did not experience any other issues with the pill other than having zero acne. It was smooth sailing.

A year or so ago, I got a nagging feeling that I should to reconsider taking the pill. Simply because I didn’t like putting synthetic hormones into my body, and after learning about Natural Family Planning, I decided I was done with the pill. We’ll get into NFP another day because that is a HUGE topic. And I’m still learning.

So here I am, sharing the changes I’ve seen in my body since going off the pill. I hope that it will prep you for what’s ahead if you have chosen to go off the pill and help you feel not so alone.

MY 5 THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO MY BODY AFTER COMING OFF BIRTH CONTROL:

  1. Acne. Just to be clear, I have never struggled with acne. Not before taking the pill, and not during. I would get an occasional zit every once in awhile, but nothing crazy. Now? I get zits around the time that I get my period. They’re not bad, but little ones pop up around my chin area, which is the spot that women have hormonal breakouts.
  2. Oily hair. I used to be able to go over one week without washing my hair. Welllll…my hormones paid me back, big time after going off the pill. I had always had a VERY dry scalp and very dry hair. I still struggle with psoriasis on my scalp, however, my hair becomes greasy if I don’t wash it every day. That party is over!
  3. Thicker hair. This happened super fast, like within 2 months after no more pill. And the change has been very noticeable. I color my hair, so it requires extra TLC, and I haven’t been using any new treatments. It is healthier, thicker, and longer than ever! Not complaining about this one.
  4. Regular periods and ovulation. To be honest, I was really terrified that I wouldn’t get my period again (I know, I know, paranoia at its best, but after YEARS of not having it, I was scared) and when I got it within 20 days of coming off the pill, I was SO excited. Since then, I have gotten it every month like clockwork. I’m learning to track my cycles and it is so amazing how our bodies NATURALLY work. I was so clueless to the signs that my body was clearly showing me before I started taking the pill because I was never taught how to read certain signs. Again, more on that when I talk about NFP.
  5. Weight loss. I have lost 8 pounds since going off the pill, with no other changes to my diet or exercise routine. Much of this weight loss was around the hip and thigh area.

I really spilled my guts on this post, and I hope that you found it helpful. Please feel free to email me, DM me on Instagram, or leave a comment to let me know about your experience.

xo, Lynn

Having a good routine for feminine hygiene is just as important as regular hygiene.

I hope that the subject becomes less taboo than it is now. Having clean & HEALTHY lady parts is nothing to be ashamed of.

So today, I’m sharing all of my top products and tips from keeping boob sweat at bay to cleansing your vagina. Every single item I talk about in this video is CLEAN, cruelty free, and gentle.