Have you ever done a life edit? If not, I highly recommend doing one ASAP.
I am still working on my life edit, and MAN does it feel good. I feel like I’ve changed so much in just a matter of weeks after doing everything I go over in my new podcast episode – it’s a must listen if you’re wanting to get organized, get shit out of your life from stuff to emotions to people.
You guys, in 2 weeks, I cleaned out 60,000+ emails, unsubscribed from all that I didn’t want to receive any longer using unroll me, I am in the process of auditing all of my social media, cleaned out my closet, and a whole lot more.
In this episode, I cover mental, physical, and emotional ways to edit your life. Listen to it HERE.
This entire list is about picking up your life and putting all the shit DOWN. Never have I listened more to my inner voice and not to the competing voices outside after doing this.
An edited life is yours because it’s the one you are choosing to live.
I don’t know about you, but I spent the first two weeks of this quarantine sitting with my emotions. Letting myself feel and process them. I didn’t have a creative bone in my body because my energy was completely devoted to doing something I had never done before.
I then decided to take this unique time to do a major Life Edit. I’m still working on it and I will write a blog post all about it soon. Today though, I want to talk about processing your thoughts and feelings in a way that will serve you. I am not a counselor (although I do have a Psychology degree!) but I have learned what I am about to share through experience and from my own therapist.
Personally and knowing and talking to others about this, I have learned that many people find it really difficult to deal with negative emotions – the bad shit. When that stuff shows up, we run away, scroll on social media, ya know…distract.
To actually sit with our feelings and process them though, we can allow space for new + better ones to enter. And when that happens, awareness is ‘there’, and you will have more control over your thoughts and consciousness.
Ok, so here was is (and was) my process for processing:
Sit with your shit:
When you sit with your feelings and understand that it is a part of your experience as a human being, negative feelings usually decrease on their own. Through feeling everything meansfeeling the tears, worries, a pounding heart, the list goes on. Just let them all be and acknowledge them.
Ask yourself some questions:
After you’ve had a chance so sit with your feelings, start asking questions. The first thing that I asked myself and continue to ask is “What can I give myself right now?” This question alone is just life changing. Sometimes the answer for me is a long & HOT shower with fresh eucalyptus and my salt rock night light on in the bathroom. Sometimes it’s to go outside for a walk. This question and answer…and then DOING will allow you to connect with yourself on a new level and with your own intuition.
A couple more questions to help get your mind going:
What will lift my mood right now?
What tool will change my state?
At the risk of sounding ‘woo woo’, I believe that we are ALL going through a huge emotional shift and I really wanted to share this message with you so that you can ascend into your highest self.
I wanted to share this message with you on how we can best navigate this time as a collective,take care of yourself, and reach your ‘highest self’.
For those of you who follow me on Instagram, you might remember when I asked you on Stories what your favorite undies brands are as I decided that at 32, my Victoria’s Secret undies were just not cutting it anymore. You know, the barely covered look, discomfort (especially at the gym) etc.
So I set out to try a bunch of different brands and now I’m here, 3 months later to share the results. Before we get into it, know that each pair I am sharing are thongs. I don’t personally wear anything other than thongs because I don’t find other kinds of underwear comfortable.
I am also very much about prettiness. I love everything around me (and on me) to be pretty, if possible…and I aimed to do that when I purchased all of these undies. You want a little luxury when it comes to your underwear.
I chose 5 pairs of underwear to share with you, and they are all beautiful, comfortable, and wash well. Ok, let’s break it down:
There are two brands that just KILL IT when it comes to undies. I’m going to break down my favorites from each:
♥ Allover Geo Lace Retro Thong: A super-soft crochet-inspired lace wide waistband looks and supports like a panty in the front, with the benefit of no-show coverage in the back.
The Geo Lace Thong is so comfortable and the high waist adds a tiny bit of extra support (don’t expect a lot of support here), but enough to make you feel ‘secure’ and covered while still looking sexy.
♥ Allover Lace Thong: Made from ultrasoft, stretch lace with a pretty floral motif. A fit so close and comfy, it’s virtually invisible under clothes.
There is no digging or scratchiness with this thong, like some other lace thongs I’ve worn. LOVE. This thong is also an improvement from Hanky Panky undies. I’ve had my fair share of Hanky Panky’s over the last 10+ years so you can really trust me on this. Not only are they higher quality, Soma’s are 6 for $36 vs. Hanky Panky’s $22 for ONE pair.
♥ Ribbed High-Cut Thong: Made with a high cut to show off your legs.
These are SO comfy and just work in all the right places. These undies serve as ‘everyday’ undies and I also wear them to the gym. They’re super soft.
♥ No Show Thong: ZERO undie lines (even with leggings!) These are the most multi-purpose pair of undies I own but the #1 use for them for me is to wear them under a tight dress, thin pants, faux-leather leggings, and silky pants because they are literally no-show. I also like to wear these to the gym because they are so comfortable and there are no lines when I wear them with leggings. The WORST is when you’re wearing a thick lacy thong at the gym and it gets twisted. I know that I’ve been seen untwisting undies while on the treadmill. #GUILTY
♥ Lace Thong: This thong has a wide band, making it super comfy and non-restrictive. I love that the length of the crotch just fits well. Like long enough to cover everything up, so you’re not popping out everywhere or getting a wedgie.
So there you have it. The best thongs money can buy. Are there pairs you guys like? Please share in the comments!
I am all about rituals because they help motivate and move us as people. Sound cheesy? Maybe, but I believe that that rituals are an essential part of daily life, whatever they may be for you.
My luxurious night time routine is my absolute favorite ritual because it is the most indulgent ritual I practice, from having my fresh eucalyptus in the shower with the salt rock night lamp glowing, all the oils…and more.
Everything I do at night helps me to sleep well. And the better the sleep, the less stress.
So here are steps that HAVE TO HAPPEN during my night time routine:
A few months ago I noticed deeper lines on one side of my face versus the other. Has this ever happened to you? Yeah, they were most likely there before, but one day, while looking in the mirror, I thought “what the fuck has happened to my face?!” …And then it was all I saw when looking in the mirror. And yes, the side with deeper lines and more volume loss was the side I slept on.
If you follow me on Instagram, you might have seen my stories a couple of weeks ago where I took you with me to get those lines filled in with hyaluronic acid filler by the most incredible Nurse Practitioner, Shahdi at Luna Skincare Aesthetics in Walnut Creek. Side note: she truly is the best and she is an artist. I saved my stories, so you can go ahead and watch them on my BOTOX AND FILLERS Instagram highlight.
Anyway. Back to sleeping on your back. All of this to say that a few months ago, after discovering those lines, I began training myself to sleep on my back instead of on my side. It’s hard. Like really hard.
First, the benefits, aside from not getting wrinkles on your face:
Better alignment of the spine, which reduces pain.
Minimizes acid reflux
Prevents chest and boob wrinkles
Maintains perky boobs
How to do it?
♡ Keep your head in a slightly raised position with the help of a pillow or two. I personally use two pillows. On the bottom, I use a thin-ish pillow, and on top, where my head lays, I use a Z pillow. I have had this pillow for three years and it is the best pillow I’ve ever used. I originally purchased it after researching a pillow to help alleviate neck pain. For extra credit: Add pillows under your arms to help make you feel supported.
♡ Add a pillow under the backs of your knees. Adding a pillow under your knees will take some pressure off your back and it kind of makes you feel like you’re floating in the best way possible. I find that adding a pillow under my knees really helps me avoid rolling over to my side in the middle of the night too.
♡ Create a barricade with pillows. This is just an extra precaution but I wouldn’t only do this step. The first two are much more effective if you’re trying to train yourself to sleep on your back. But it’s harder to switch to side sleeping if there is a barricade of pillows around you.
♡ Sleep with the bottoms of your feet touching. If you’re having trouble imagining this, spread your legs so that your knees are out, and touch the bottoms of your feet together. This is super comfortable when sleeping on your back, especially when your knees are supported with pillows.
Training myself to sleep on my back took about 3 months to finally do all through the night. And I have to make sure the conditions are just right. If I don’t have my pillows positioned correctly, all bets are off and I’ll be on my side within an hour.